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Beauty

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“Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical.” ~Sophia Loren

Tiny Budha had a recent post about 35 Ways to Be Beautiful.  I’m going to do my best in the new year to incorporate these ideas into my life so that my whole life will be beautiful.  Enjoy and Happy New Year!

1. Smile. As the quote goes, “I’ve never seen a smiling face that was not beautiful.”

2. Be there for someone who needs you even if there’s nothing in it for you—give without expectations.

3. Make a sacrifice for someone you love.

4. Admit a mistake, even if it’s hard to say you’re wrong, and work to make amends.

5. Share your struggles, putting your ego aside, to make someone else feel less alone.

6. Create something that helps people. A song, a blog, a support group, a non-profit—anything that inspires.

7. Help a child feel good about him or herself.

8. Tell someone what you appreciate about them, even if you feel vulnerable.

9. Forgive someone without needing to hear the words, “I’m sorry.”

10. Create positive energy around you by thinking positive thoughts and acting with positive intentions.

11. Sit with reality without judging anyone or anything.

12. Accept someone for who they are instead of trying to change them to who you want them to be.

13. Treat people as they want to be treated.

14. Notice something simple but beautiful in the world around you.

15. Acknowledge the beauty in others, instead of feeling threatened or competing with other people.

16. Be the change you want to see in the world, as per Gandhi’s suggestion.

17. Tap into your personal power and do something that makes a difference in the world.

18. Find strength in a challenging moment. It’s not easy to do, and you deserve credit for it.

19. Talk kindly about the world around you instead of gossiping or complaining.

20. Forget yourself for a minute and do nothing but listen to someone who needs it.

21. Measure a person by their best moments, not their worst.

22. Give yourself the same courtesy—focus on the good you’ve done, not the mistakes you’ve made.

23. Take the high road when someone hurts you instead if being cruel or catty.

24. Make someone laugh. A smile can literally melt stress and pain away. How beautiful of you to do that for someone else!

25. Make someone cry—tears of joy that is. People want to feel moved, inspired, motivated. Never underestimate the power of touching someone’s heart.

26. Keep an open mind instead of sticking with a judgment or assumption.

27. Love what you’re tempted to fear.

28. Be the voice of optimism when the people around you need it badly.

29. Show humility when your accomplishments would make it easy to stand above people.

30. Handle rejection or failure with grace. It’s far more easily said than done—and it sounds so cheesy and cliche—but accepting loss gracefully makes you a true winner.

31. Show unbridled enthusiasm for something that excites you. All children are beautiful, and I think their unadulterated joy has a lot to do with it.

32. Hear what someone means, not just what they say. Anyone can nitpick. Not everyone actively works to be understanding.

33. Imagine a world where people know peace, and do one small thing to create it.

34. Honor the values that matter to you. Showing integrity is the first step to feeling good about yourself.

35. Accept and love yourself, just as you are in this moment.

If you want to read more about these ideas, hop on over to the Tiny Budha blog.

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To Work or Not?

A few months back, before my realization that I was hitting sixty, I became very restless.  Ever since we moved to the tiny town that we now live in, I have not worked outside the home, with the exception of one summer.  This was not necessarily out of a desire to retire, but because the area does not offer much in the way of employment opportunities, particularly for a woman over 50.

I have appreciated not working, don’t get me wrong.  I have had the opportunity to travel, become a DIYer, volunteer and explore the satisfaction of keeping a home.   And the thought of going back to a 9 – 5 job makes me shudder.  But, as a child of the 60s and 70s, I very much identified myself by my career.  And, after 10 years of answering “I play a lot” when someone new asks me what I do, I began to feel incomplete and, worse, irrelevant.

Recent studies show that up to 76% of “second act” people intend to continue working past retirement.  Turning 60 or 65 is no longer seen as the “end” of your life, but rather a time to reflect and repurpose your life.   The October 2009 issue of the Journal of Occupational Healthy Psychology,  published by the American Psychological Association, says a recent national study determined that retirees were healthier, both mentally and physically, if they kept working at least part-time.

Finding a job, however, is not easy.  USA Today says:

The stark reality is that most of today’s middle-age workers who want to continue working after 60 or even 65 will need to find a new source of income. While nearly half of baby boomers expect to work past 65, only 13% of current retirees surveyed this year by consulting firm McKinsey & Co. actually worked past that age. Forty percent of current retirees were forced to stop working earlier than they had planned, the survey found. The average age when current retirees left the workforce: 59.

Although age discrimination is illegal,  AARP surveys indicate that at least 60% of respondees have experienced or observed it in the workplace. That, plus the lack of opportunity to go back into my field of project management led me to wonder about starting a business of my own.  The only thing I knew about were direct sales companies and I do not do selling – I’m uncomfortable and ineffective at it.  After a lot of research, however, I did find something that I thought I could do and building the (small) company has become part of my reinvention.

Some people have said “Are you nuts?  At your age?.”  But it has been a life changing thing for me.  There has been and remains  a steep learning curve for me.   I hadn’t realized how stagnant I had become until I had to step out of my comfortable box and confront things that were difficult. My mind feels alive again and my business, which has to do with social media, makes me feel that I’m somewhat in the mainstream again.

I don’t know where the business will go, but I’m willing to follow wherever it takes me.  Besides the bit of money it might make me, it gives me a sense of purpose, a feeling that I am a vital person with something to contribute.  What could be better than that?

 

 

Who me?

Please take a minute to hop on over to The Feisty Side of Fifty to read Eileen Williams’ post about becoming a wise woman.  It kind of sums up a lot of what I’m trying to do along my journey.  I hope you enjoy it!

http://feistysideoffifty.com/2012/11/30/becoming-a-wise-woman-who-me/

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